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kleinbl00  ·  3205 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Current Soundtrack

Went to a party last week. Saw the old crowd. Included an ex (probably the worst ex) whose relationship ended on a bad note (probably the worst note). Spent 3 hours avoiding eye contact and trying not to be recognized; after all, it's been 15 years.

She did, of course. Said "hi" on her way out the door. I said "hi" back. The thing is, though?

It's been 15 years. And it ended badly. And fuckin'A I look good and she didn't.

And that was awesome.





lil  ·  3205 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Note to everybody: Stay fabulous, no matter how brutal the split up is.

_refugee_  ·  3200 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You will never be dissatisfied with the results of taking care of yourself.

OftenBen  ·  3200 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I still judge myself for self-care stuff sometimes.

Work in progress.

_refugee_  ·  3199 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah, honestly, I had to think about that for a bit. You know what they say about generalizations.

lil  ·  3149 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    And fuckin'A I look good and she didn't.

I had a dream about you last night, usual non-sequitor dream stuff.

I bet it was because of your comment here. I'm on my way to the lawyer, as you know, and I was thinking, I'm going to make sure I look great! I better get on it.

OftenBen  ·  3149 days ago  ·  link  ·  

For what it's worth, I'm finding your progress and mentality towards this whole process incredibly inspiring.

In 100% of the cases I've seen up until this one, divorce is the ending of people. It is where their happiness, self-worth, and 'light' seems to sputter and die out.

You're just getting started, and I've never seen you shine brighter.

kleinbl00  ·  3149 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Lol I'm my wife's second husband

OftenBen  ·  3149 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I don't know your wife, I know you.

Far as I know you've only had the one spouse, right?

kleinbl00  ·  3149 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Quite.

Take it from me, you are woefully mistaken.

OftenBen  ·  3149 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I wish my experience had led me to believe otherwise. :/

kleinbl00  ·  3149 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Lil's comment - the one you replied to - is proof positive that your experience thus far is incomplete.

OftenBen  ·  3149 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I agree wholeheartedly that my experience is incomplete.

Its now like, ninety something percent of cases, versus 100%.