Girlfriend's sister decided she was going to the gym to get strong. She did; chick could do more pull-ups than her dad and could squat like a Marine. But she also got heavy because she needed the reserves to actually move the metal. She spent probably 2 years like that and gained maybe 4 dress sizes. Then she decided that she'd wandered a bit outside the normal dating parameters of young adult females and started focusing on being trim. Six months later she was a lithe little thing and got a lot more dates... but she couldn't lift a fraction of what she'd been training at. Now if you'll excuse me, I need to finish my tamale.
Not to get too far off topic but it is a bit of a shame that was the case with your girlfriend's sister. If she wanted to be big and strong, fuck it. Who is anyone to judge. It's been awesome to see powerlifting getting more popular with women and having more women compete! But I digress, tamales sound great for lunch today.
Not off topic at all. The whole discussion is about shifting norms and ideals for socialization. She was uncomfortable deviating from the recognized social norm for young women, but not until she'd experienced life beyond the curve. Should those social norms begin favoring female strength, more young women will walk her path.