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_refugee_  ·  3361 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Is There Anything Good About Men?

Yeah. I don't consider being "average" a compliment or a positive aspect. I'd rather die out in a flame than fade away, or whatever, apparently.

For those who are okay with the safe option I guess being a woman, from the point of the article, seems okay.

I guess it's the average people that don't have billboards or movies for them.





kleinbl00  ·  3361 days ago  ·  link  ·  

No one's asking you to. more important, the article doesn't argue that women are more or less average than men - the article is arguing that women who stand out actually stand out more than men who stand out. More than that, you can still stand out and be judged on the median:

    On the Titanic, the richest men had a lower survival rate (34%) than the poorest women (46%) (though that’s not how it looked in the movie). That in itself is remarkable. The rich, powerful, and successful men, the movers and shakers, supposedly the ones that the culture is all set up to favor — in a pinch, their lives were valued less than those of women with hardly any money or power or status. The too-few seats in the lifeboats went to the women who weren’t even ladies, instead of to those patriarchs.
reguile  ·  3358 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm a big fan of existentialism.

Nothing matters, life is pointless, the world is pointless, the universe is pointless. No matter what we do, we will die, be forgotten, and nothing we remembered or nothing about how we exist today will live on. There is no future for us.

But, regardless of that, we can life happily picking our own path, picking what is important for us. In the grand scheme of things, life is truly pointless, from my view, I just want to be happy, live my life, and die.

Going out with a bang, being famous, is encouraged by society because it benefits society when people sacrifice themselves for doing so. Society loves a poet driven to suicide, but who produced lovely poems for thousands. Do you want to be that poet?

_refugee_  ·  3357 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You have no idea what you are talking about, but I'd appreciate it if you can trust that I'm an adult who has thought through her desires carefully enough not to mind what they are. So otherwise, fug off.

reguile  ·  3357 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think you are reading too much into what I am saying.

    it if you can trust that I'm an adult

I don't give a shit who you are.

_refugee_  ·  3357 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Society loves a poet driven to suicide, but who produced lovely poems for thousands. Do you want to be that poet?
reguile  ·  3357 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I didn't say that because my views of you, or because I thought you are a child, I said that because it's a rhetorical tool. Making the statement that being great, being a hero, is something that society "glamorizes" at the expense of all those who become heroes. And that nobody should actually want to be a hero, even in the culture that emphasizes it, because it comes a personal harm.