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comment by McSlipperton
McSlipperton  ·  3412 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I'm getting divorced and dating is crazy now

I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a divorce right now. Just get through it, don't push yourself too hard to 'connect' with someone, just out of lonliness. That being said, when you are really ready to date, I would suggest something online. After my divorce, a move out of town, and about a year to simmer and be awkward - I tried online dating. Try the different sites out, and see which one(s) fit what you are looking for.

The best advice I can give to you about online dating is to:

1) Consider it to be like an interview ( Is this woman crazy? How many children does she have? e.t.c. )

2) Go grab coffee/lunch - not dinner ( dinner is for second meetings ) ASAP - it may feel like there is some 'chemistry' on chats and texts - many will flop when you meet them and try to actually talk with them. ( Remember, this is like an interview for the first few meetings )

3) Have fun - I considered it a relatively inexpensive way to meet new people and get out of the house, where I would have been just being a home-body otherwise.

I hope your pain is short, and that your darkest days are already in your past...

BTW - I met my fiancee on Tinder, of all places. I was tired of all of the forms and crafting messages to interest her. I was not into hookups - I had just heard of that app mentioned on many different talk shows and such... You find what you are looking for.

Good luck, brother.