Do you have anything to contribute besides reasons for why people can't converse about this? It seems outside of "The Red Pill" and MRA circles it is increasingly difficult to talk about masculinity in a way that is healthy and conductive to a higher standard of morals.
I have never really thought of masculinity really means to me. But I will take a crack at it. I don't really try to show a tough side or a soft side, all I am is myself. I never try to be a tough guy so that people will not mess with me but I also don't really show too much of a soft side either. I am a more of a quiet person overall and I really don't try to impressive anyone because I don't really care too about going out of my way to impress someone.
So you try not to be ruled by your emotions and you try to remain tied to something close to objective reality. These are good rules for being a good person. Do you not think there is anything particular about being a man that is different from being a woman? That there is no difference in emphasis?