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doommaggot  ·  3472 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Feminists want us to define these ugly sexual encounters as rape. Don't let them.

What a load a bullshit. How about focusing on an issue that's actually a problem? There is an average of 293,066 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year. U.S. Department of Justice. National Crime Victimization Survey. 2009-2013.

    There was the time when, 19 and naive, I was guilt-tripped into entirely unwanted physical intimacies with a much older married man.

Predatory behaviour. Adults should not be going after much younger people, as there is a power and maturity difference between them. Not consensual sex as she was manipulated into it.

    And the time, three or four years later, when I went to visit an on-and-off long-distance boyfriend and quickly realized that it was over for me — but he assumed we were still on, and I didn’t have the nerve to say no.

No consent obtain before hand. She didn't want to have sex, he should have made sure she wanted to beforehand.

    There was the ex-boyfriend I thought I was seducing in the hope of getting him back — only to realize, the one time he finally said no harshly enough, that it had been more pressure than seduction.

Would have been rape if she hadn't backed off.

    There was the man who told me it was too soon for us to get involved and said, more than once, “We shouldn’t be doing this” the evening we first went to bed.

This is definitely rape as it is described.

    Sometimes, the movement’s supporters claim that the new rules amount to little more than common sense: Don’t have sex with someone who isn’t a willing partner.

Yes, that is exactly what it is. Don't have sex with anyone that isn't as enthusiastic about having sex with you as you are about having sex with them. It's not that hard.





sullyj3  ·  3420 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Do you really think the author deserves to be prosecuted in the instance of the guy who said "We shouldn't be doing this"?

doommaggot  ·  3419 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Only if the other person involved was harmed by the experience.

sullyj3  ·  3420 days ago  ·  link  ·  
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