okay but how do we get there
I don't know. We are at a place where the relationship between the police and the communities they serve is a very unhealthy one. This is the problem that needs to be addressed first. Many professions require continuing education in order to maintain a license. Perhaps police should be required to perform a number of 'community engagement' hours every year to remain employable. For example, this could be serving a soup kitchen, reading to kids at a local library, helping with a community fair or festival, or coaching a local youth team. This isn't a fix, but it could be a start. Rules and 'sensitivity training' are not going to fix the us vs. them mentality that has poisoned the police/community relationship. It's not enough to prevent police from doing harm to a community, you need to create the conditions where they will not be willing to.
I swear I'm not trying to play devils advocate here, but I think there may be a lot of assumptions in your last comment. My guess, (and this is just a guess) is that police officers in most areas of the country are required to take some sort of continual training. Also, my guess is that the certain amount of community out reach, in the matter you suggest are already occurring and is mandatory.
It could be a matter of quality, or both.
without a doubt. Things like community service often become a box to be checked instead of something meaningful to engaged in.