I soooo hope this bs isn't coming from a certain photographer. Now: Note on how to respond to people. When someone says you are too aggressive, what they mean is they are intimidated by you. When someone says you are not friendly enough, what they mean is that they wish you were warmer to them. When someone says you care too much about other people's opinion's, what they mean is they are worried about you. The thing to remember is that first and foremost, when someone gives you one of those messages, they are talking about themselves, not about you. It might be about you, but mostly it's about their feelings, fears, hopes, and perceptions. If you care about the person and want to be in the conversation there are a number of ways you can get more information before deciding it's about you. I have these on line.