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nowaypablo  ·  3585 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I'm back.

I was gonna reply to you tagging Waterford, 'cause I didn't think he really tried to condescend or anything.

The dude's 15 man, that's how old I was when I joined the 'Ski. I'm sure I've made twice as many people cringe since joining than I've gained followers in that time. Give him a bit of time to figure it out..





kleinbl00  ·  3585 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Oh no doubt. I don't think he ever tried to come across as condescending or antagonistic. But he sure came off as condescending and antagonistic a lot. And a number of us tried to say "Hey, dude - you're kind of coming off as condescending and antagonistic" as politely as we could and it never went well.

So what's the answer? If your choices are caustic burn or detonation, are you better off suffering the burn or triggering periodic detonations? I know this - explosions are more work for a bomb than bile is for a gallbladder.

I'm honestly sorry to see the kid go. But when you can't even say hey, man, did you mean to come across like that? without causing the drams, well, my life is interesting enough, ya kna?

BTW - there's nothing wrong with being 12, 15, 17, 18, 32, 64, hike. But if you can't learn how to communicate with people without pissing them off at 15, it's gonna be way harder at 18... and matter way more at 21. I can't recall ever seeing you get into fisticuffs with anyone over anything. Generally it takes two on this stuff but some people will do more than meet you in the middle.

ButterflyEffect  ·  3585 days ago  ·  link  ·  

There was this one time when pabs wanted to fight me and well, I've been traumatized ever since.

kleinbl00  ·  3585 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Was it finals week? 'cuz he gets a little pugilistic around tests, but that's just the stress talking.

nowaypablo  ·  3585 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hold your lunch money close, bub.

b_b  ·  3585 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    The dude's 15 man, that's how old I was when I joined the 'Ski.

Now you're like, 15 and a half?

(Just teasing, btw. Hard to tell in text, I know.)

nowaypablo  ·  3585 days ago  ·  link  ·  

17, 15, same thing. I honestly haven't felt a change in maturity in myself since maybe 13 or 14 :|

b_b  ·  3585 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You probably don't have a car, eh? Turning 16 doesn't mean anything without wheels. You need a milestone to remind yourself you're growing up. Graduating high school is a good one. I remember having to pinch myself on my last day of class, because school, from the time I can remember, say first grade or so, felt like a big prison fuck. Then one day you wake up and realize that the world has just granted you adult status. That's a maturity check, and I'm sure based on your age you're just about there, no?

nowaypablo  ·  3585 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You're so right it hurts; good call. Been waiting to get my permit (drive alone w/o parent in passenger seat) since I turned 17, Mama Pabs won't let me yet. Let me out my cage, Ma!!

Man, I'm clocking out the moment I get an acceptance to a college I decide to go to. I'll make sure my grades coast till the end but.. you're right, I bet finally getting out feels like someone left their boat with the key in during your life sentence in Alcatraz.

galen  ·  3585 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    You're so right it hurts; good call. Been waiting to get my permit (drive alone w/o parent in passenger seat) since I turned 17, Mama Pabs won't let me yet. Let me out my cage, Ma!!

Mine too. Those insurance costs, nawmean? It's insane. I honestly don't expect to drive until I've at least spent two years in college. Of course that also has to do with the other matter of not needing to drive once I'm at college.

elizabeth  ·  3585 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think it's probably so progressive you just don't notice it. Or you've been extremely mature since 13 :P

I cringe back on 13 year old me. I wish I had your good manners and diplomacy at that time. I was too smart for my own good and used to make "clever" remarks at the expense of some poor people. It didn't help adults around me found it funny... Criiiinge. Somehow I though that if it was funny, it was not mean. After all, they did it on TV all the time too.

I wish someone slapped some sense into me back then instead of just laughing...