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user-inactivated  ·  3594 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Also, kids: don't fall in love before you're 32 or so. It's just not convenient.

It's posts like these that make realize that the Western perception of love is a lot different then ours. Unfortunately I can't find any reading on it, because apparently the East is just Japan and China, and since I am neither of those two nationalities, it means jack shit to me. Then when you try to look up shit on Sudan, it's about South Sudanese poets and authors, while I know way more about the north.

I guess you'll just have to trust me on this one.





lil  ·  3594 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm only speaking for myself, not the entire West. But yeah, there is a growing tendency for love to be something you grow into as you learn to live in the world, rather than a serious part of learning to live in the world within a committed relationship and a large extended family.

Tell us more from your experience - you don't have to look it up. My middle eastern relatives have arranged marriages (that have been working out brilliantly). Their attitude towards love is very different from mine.

user-inactivated  ·  3594 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I don't think I can. I'm not very well-versed on the subject, and I get anxious when I talk about it. I have no experience.

I guess I can say that my cousin told me not to get married before I turned 30. He's happy with his family and life, he just wishes he had spent more of it on himself, I guess.

Sudanese people sing a lot about love, but I'm pretty sure they're just trying to forget the shitty state the country is in.