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elizabeth  ·  3598 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski, why is Reddit compared negatively to this website?

Yeah I think I have to agree with kleinbl00 here. I'm not talking about the reddit discussion but the one about why you feel you're constantly picked apart and attacked.

On the last two things I posted here, you were the first (and only one) to comment. I mean, cool I like discussion! But while I don't have the skilz to actually understand why something about your responses irked me. I was ready to reply on a very defensive tone but toned it all down considerably. I thought "why am i so bothered?" re-read your comment and didn't find anything to be hostile about so I toned it all down and replied in a friendly manner. I figured it was my insecurities projected on you and you were not to blame that I felt a certain way. We then proceeded to have a perfectly cool interaction.

But then I noticed other people misinterpreting your comments in other threads too. I don't have any specific advice and I'm sure you don't mean to but there is just something in the way you say things that puts people on the defensive. Conversations get heated from that point on.

You're very intelligent tho and I hope you stick around. Just... I don't know, try to be a bit less.... eh... arrogant? Nah, that's not the word I'm looking for but something along those lines.

Does that happen to you outside Hubski? Tag me when you do run that game, I'll participate if I've got time :)





user-inactivated  ·  3588 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Does that happen to you outside Hubski?

This is the question that got me to respond after this long. I've thought enough about what I'm going to say in response, and it isn't getting anywhere. No matter. I've been looking over my past comments. Is the word you're looking for "aggressive?" That's the vibe I'm getting from myself. I don't mean it, but I can see it. And there is no other place, offline or online that gets me the kind of reactions I get here.

I'm trying to think about what I say here a few times before I write it, so bear with me. I don't know what's different here compared to other websites. I don't speak any differently here than I do anywhere else. It's confusing to me when I get negative reactions to things I don't think are offensive. I'm certainly a large part of the problem (acting like a dick on purpose does not help the issue of being perceived as one), but I don't know how to change the way I talk and act.

I'm bad at long posts. I was going to remain silent and lurk after my original post, but after thinking about it I realized that it would probably come across as whining. This is as much as I can get straight in my head right now. Tomorrow I might tackle the mountain that is the other response. I've certainly read it enough times to get a grip on it. Hopefully this isn't beating a dead horse.