My existence on this planet is to protect my baby. The other villagers have the right to do what is best for them, but I protect my baby. If that means that I die trying to save her/him, then I've done everything in my power. If I can sacrifice myself by luring the soldiers away from the hiding villagers and I have an able bodied wife to raise that child, then I go that route. It is an awful dilemma indeed, but I could not ever choose my neighbor over my child.
Not judging it. In fact, I feel it's not completely different from my first response, but instead of me killing myself and the baby, you make the neighbors kill yourself and the baby. Oddly, I'd almost rather my baby die by my hand than my neighbor's. I think the idea of someone else doing it is particularly terrifying. I would hate to put his/her last moment in someone else's hands. They might be brutal.
On a similarly odd note, I have been fascinated by this new show "Doomsday Preppers". If you are unfamiliar with the show, there are two distinctly different subcultures among the "preppers". The first is your stereotypical gun-wielding troglodyte who is absolutely certain of the zombie apocalypse. The second are stockpiling pacifists who belief that hugs and apple cider will get them through a nuclear holocaust. I love this show! Though I know I've grossly oversimplified these good people, which camp would you fall in? The community garden or the one man army?