I'm somewhat young, in my senior year of high school. I guess I'm just having a sort of early-life crisis, if I could call it that. I've been panicking because I have no idea what I really like to do, I don't have any real talents or worthwhile hobbies. I think I'm getting better but I would still like some other perspectives.
Note: I'm not necessarily looking for sympathy or anything, anyone's experiences are welcome!
The first time I was truly passionate about something was film. I discovered it in probably 10th grade in high school or so. I was lucky. None of my friends had any idea what they wanted to do. My brother didn't know what he wanted to do. I toyed with the idea of traveling for a bit and working in the industry here in LA and starting college later, if I needed to. I was severely over school - I was bored, rebellious, and too smart for my own good. I also really liked drugs. But I was mostly done answering to people and playing the game. I got a 4.0 through high school not because I was smart or put 200% effort in. It was because I played the game. I went to class and did all my homework and respected the teachers and "opened" up to them. But I also spent any time I could not in class. If any of my classes had a substitute, was generally boring, had a test that I finished early, had group presentations, anything - I would leave class, go to my video class, talk to my teacher there and then either fuck around on facebook, edit, prep for something, or sneak out the back door and go wander around town. Our campus was closed but we had a little loading dock that opened passed the outer gate. As long as the security guards weren't right there, I could be in my car in 2 minutes flat. I really didn't like my time wasted. I would run errands or do other homework or grab lunch with my folks, grandmother, or boyfriend (who was already graduated). And then be back for the next period. Anyways, I didn't think college was what I wanted to do. But everyone was applying to college so I applied to NYU and surprisingly got in. So I went. Then my passion for film very quickly evaporated. I realize now that I was really passionate about was working with amazing people and creating amazing things - the medium mattered much less. It also turned out that theres a lot of shit you have to deal with before you get to simply create. Like months and/or years of organizational pre-production work. And money. And budgets. And begging. I hate begging. I just wanted to create stuff. So I dropped out after 2 years (well, officially I took a leave of absence and really kept all my doors open). I worked on student films. I worked on editing projects for money to make ends meet. (My parents stopped the little bit of money they were sending me when I left school.) I hung out with a lot of people who were still being footed by their parents and let them buy the drugs. It was a fun time of my life. No money. Some drugs. Creating cool stuff. Editing all night and day. Every day was fresh. Sometimes I had to be in the studio at 9am. Sometimes I would buy a bottle of vodka and finish it by 9am. No shame NYC days. I wouldn't call it passion though. I never saw myself doing it for another month - but somehow I did it for almost a year. Then I broke up with my boyfriend, took my security deposit and last $500 check and ran away to Australia. No idea what I was going to do with my life. I hung out with wildly successful people in their late-20s to early-30s. I've since discovered that that's the age people get their shit together, start making real money, and everything seems to work out awesomely. I wanted real money. So I got home, got a job, was bored, created videos, did a LOT more drugs (since there were none in Australia). And then I discovered this whole creating shit on the computer thing. It's basically video editing without the need for large budgets and teams of people. It's creative and it's pretty and much quicker. So I taught myself how to design. And then HTML/CSS. Then JS. Now I'm creating full blown websites and working with shitty java backends and okay php/mysql shit and awesome node.js shit and I read every day about the absolutely amazing things people are creating with code. I get to take something I know nothing about, watch a couple tutorials, read a couple articles, and then create something I didn't even know I could create. It's epic. I don't get bored anymore. I love it. I love every day. I get to do something new every fucking day! So, to answer your question - At 16 and then again at 23/24 and then who knows.
When did you find what you're passionate about (if at all)?
Every day. No shit, every day I find something that I'm passionate about. If you are really, really un-lucky, you'll find one thing that you are passionate about. Otherwise, what you will find with time is that passion isn't what you find in things, it's what you bring to them.
My experience mirrors this, it is better to be fluid with your passions. The most interesting people I've met have had a bunch of jobs, met a bunch of people, and have done things because they had the opportunity. If you ever find yourself saying you're bored, you just aren't trying.
you know job interviewers do not like this. I am shit at selling anything, that includes myself, and most of employers sarcastically ask - but how can I be sure that you will be a good worker? According to you previous experience, you may not show up for the work, because you decided to hitchhike to Bulgaria, photographing birds at some stranger's farm. Being passionate about most of the things has its negative side.
I've both been the interviewer and the one being interviewed. I can say that without a doubt the #1 thing I look for in someone is passion. When I ask someone about their past work experiences I want to hear passion in their recollection, not regret or bitterness. When I ask them to tell me about themselves etc, I want to hear passion. Apathy sucks. Passion is where it's at. I've never left an interview thinking "man, I think I may have come across as too passionate."
I think tng refers to finding passion in his work, not being a creature so moved by passing fancies and whims that he will randomly hitchhike to Bulgaria. The only downsides I can see about being passionate is: 1) you scare off people who aren't passionate 2) you have an emotional investment in what you're doing and so can experience emotional hurt if things don't go well
I found out that I am passionate about living without money after reading "The Man Who Quit Money." Unfortunately I discovered this during my Junior year of college and had a bit of debt already. You still have time.
Some time during junior year of high school, I started researching LSD. I think I actually realized I was passionate about psychoactive compounds the first time I smoked weed, just before starting senior year; it simply fascinated me that a chemical could do something like that to my perception. MDMA ratcheted that up a notch, and then one day psilocybin mushrooms absolutely blew my mind apart. There's simply nothing more interesting in the world than the psychedelic experience--not the drug experience, mind you, but the direct experience of spiritual essence that the drugs lead you to if you take them in the right setting. It's the end and the beginning. I feel like all my passions sprout from whatever energy source it was that I first directly witnessed during that first mushroom trip. Right now it's taking the form of music. I first realized that was what I liked to do the most some time during freshman year of college when I got involved heavily with LSD and realized music was a language I could speak.
Listen to anything and take it apart again. Spectrum analysis, in my head. I can break down chords, and timbres, and words too into all the basic frequencies and harmonics, with all their different loudnesses, and listen to them, each pure tone, but all at once.
Thomas Pynchon, The Crying of Lot 49
1982, my first year at Uni. Majored in general engineering, because I didn't know what I wanted to do. All first-year engr students had to take "Intro to CS", where we learned this weirdo computer language called "C". I realised I had a knack for it, and oh-my-god the sense of relief I had. I knew instantly that this was something I could do all day and not get bored. Switched my major and didn't look back. Still not bored.
Introduced to programming with the C language? You sir, your sir had it good. I wish I had learned C first. It would have made learning so much easier. Of course I learned c++ after a couple of years, so it could have been worse. I can't imagine learning Java as your first language. I would probably have quit programming after 10 days.
I'm going to write an extension that changes the word java to "death to man kind". It's insanely stupid. Insanely frustrating. Insane on all levels. Since I'm way more designer / front end I never truly understand why some languages were worse than others. But after a recent experience with a java platform / CMS thing - I totally get it. Absolute insanity.
I found mine when I was contemplating going to art school or hopping into the work force for IT related work. I was watching a Nikon DF teaser trailer and the opening line "My father used to say, find the one thing you can do all day without looking at your watch. That's your passion." At the time I was pretty glum and that just resonated with me. My passions at the time (and still are) photography and computers. I ended up making the decision that I didn't want to ruin what photography does for me (being a stress reliever and such) by making it a career so I made the executive decision that day to pursue an IT related career and hopefully pursue and art degree later in my life. I really enjoy what thenewgreen said though. It's a great point and keep trying something new each day!
Talents are developed, the more you do something the more talented you be at it. I think it's also worth noting that passions are very fluid and evolve over time. If you're planning on going to college you'll find there are clubs for every single thing you could possibly be interested in. Use that to you're advantage.
I'm not sure I've found a passion, other than possibly learning new things. I'm a dabbler. I like trying out new hobbies bur rarely do the deep dive and become consumed by them. What I'm find though, is that dabbling in things isn't enough. Hobbies require commitment and they won't grab you unless you give them an honest chance. Skimming the surface isn't really enough. There's so many things to do and try though!
I don't really know. I've always enjoyed learning about new things and trying to explain them to other people, but life sort of gets in the way of doing that full time. Between loving being a teaching assistant for introductory computer science courses and having profs (especially in math) that left me thinking "Hey, I could teach this better", I think it was university that made me realize that deep down, teaching others is a passion of mine. Of course, that's not at all what I'm doing now, and I'm not even on track to teaching as a career and don't know when I will be. It's okay though. That's just how life works. I work a job I often enjoy with people I like, and I'm slowly working towards building a website where I can just brain-dump all the cool stuff I know, so hopefully I'll get more fulfillment with that. I guess I don't really have any advice for you other than to keep learning. You don't know what you're passionate about, but you're probably passionate about something. The answer is out there somewhere, and you just have to find it. Don't expect it to hit you like a lightning bolt. I mean, it could, who am I to say? But it might be that you just have to pick something that's mildly interesting to you and work at it for a while. Passion comes with time. Learn to play an instrument or solve a Rubiks cube or juggle or memorize PI to 100 decimal places, or all of those things. Volunteer with some organization that's mildly interesting to you. Just keep doing things and you'll find it. Also, screw talent. I play a few instruments (most very poorly, some averagely, in my mind). People think I'm talented. They don't see the amount of time I've put into learning them, and they don't know that it feels like trying to make a hole in a wall by bashing your head against it. Sure, talent helps, it'll get you there faster, but not giving up is much more important. Sorry if this is kind of rambling. It's been a long day and I'm tired. tl;dr: Keep learning. Don't quit. Try new things. Stay humble.
On the subject of playing instruments, I've come to the point in guitar where I've hit a wall. I just don't seem to be getting any better. And I'm terrible. I keep going back to it, playing for a couple weeks and then giving up because I'm just not getting any farther. I just wonder if you don't have any advice in a situation like this.
Find a teacher, I'm guilty of not doing this myself but I would be the first person to recommend you find one. If they're good they'll be able to guide you in the right direction, I'm sure of it. If not, check out this guy's videos he's a fantastic teacher.
Actually... That's a damn good idea. I don't know why I haven't considered it. Thanks :D
Pretty much what fallingleaves said, right down to me being guilty of not finding a teacher. If you can't find a teacher, I usually find that getting some method/theory books gets me excited about playing again. Otherwise, I'm not sure I have much advice for you. I don't consider myself that great at it, and I often feel like I'm at a wall. I had a reputation for being really good among my friends because I learned a bunch of flashy songs from the Candyrat Records crowd, but not all of them are that hard. It's more a matter of learning an uncommon technique. Actually, look up 'Song for Stephen' by Antoine Dufour - it's not too difficult, has an awesome 'party trick' in the middle of it that looks hard but is actually pretty easy to learn, and usually blows listeners away (you can buy tablature from Candyrat's website). It won't necessarily make you better, but it will make you different, and sometimes getting out of a rut is just as good. Otherwise, yeah, get lessons, get books, watch youtube videos - try to find inspiring stuff, and don't quit. Again, I don't think I'm that great, so take my advice with a grain of salt - I really don't think it matters what you do. Don't worry about finding the 'best' exercise. Just find an exercise that does what you want and stick with it. The important part is to keep doing things, regardless of whether you think you're improving. It takes time and gradual change is hard to see. I've never had the patience to do it, but try recording yourself every few days and comparing the recordings to see how you improve. If you haven't done it yet, try learning to play scales by ear. It's a great exercise, and it changed me from being completely unable to improvise into someone who can improvise poorly (hey, something's better than nothing, right?). Pick a major scale pattern. Play it over and over until you have the sound of it stuck in your head, then play it one fifth higher (seven frets up one string, or two frets up and one string over, unless you're on the g & b strings, in which case it's three frets up) without looking up a new pattern. Try to figure it out by ear. When you've got that done, try going up another fifth (or down a fourth - it's equivalent. Down 5 frets on one string, or keep on the same fret and go one string lower). Keep this up until you get back to where you started. If you get bored, try watching TV while you do it. It'll probably slow you down, but so what? As long as you keep practicing, right? Also, learn some music theory if you haven't already. This is the most approachable guide I've ever seen, and it goes into a fair bit of depth. And try writing your own music. Record stuff, overdub it, just have some fun. You don't even have to share it with anyone if it's not up to your standards.