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user-inactivated  ·  3743 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Do You Have "Attitude"?

Yeah I'm an elitist sort of quietly or by accident of upbringing and so it tends to project. Naturally I do not care





user-inactivated  ·  3743 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Also it carries over to husbki every once in a while I was extremely rude to b_b once like two years ago and I still think about it sometimes :(

lil  ·  3743 days ago  ·  link  ·  

ha ha ha -- funny you should say that. I've noticed over the last several months that you've been projecting more attitude on hubski than in earlier days. I honestly do not have time to verify this and since you don't care, it doesn't matter. I am, nonetheless, very very impressed with your ability to finish books. You deserve to be elitist.

user-inactivated  ·  3743 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Posted my other comment before reading yours... uh oh. Trends forming.

Anyway lil I haven't read your post yet just the bit you wrote up there and mknod's reply, but I will come back to it soon.

EDIT: okay I just read it now actually and I don't think that's what I meant by attitude (or I assumed a different definition upon reading your title) -- I think everyone has some sort of attitude, first of all, and the vast majority don't manifest themselves as 'anger', although the two words are sort of linked ... "attitude problems" etc. Blame kindergarten probably.

EDIT2: I once said on hubski that I approach most conversations with the assumption that the other party knows more than I do about the topic. It's right more often that not; I'm young. Unfortunately in my daily life through some sort of self-defense I do the exact opposite. That's my "attitude." With a handful of exceptions, it's correct ... but a bit hopeless in terms of conversations. However the alternative is to subject myself willingly to mostly boring stupid interactions forever.

lil  ·  3743 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah, everybody has attitude. I think "having attitude" though is generally defined negatively. If you have a good attitude, they stick the word good in front. Note:

Teacher to Parent: Your son seems to have a lot of attitude.

vs

Teacher to Parent: Your son has a good attitude.

I don't want to set up false expectations. I'm happy to change the titles.

user-inactivated  ·  3743 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    I think "having attitude" though is generally defined negatively.
not in say competitive sports, or maybe some situation you read about where someone who was raised by a single mom, gangs, coke, worked his way through college etc and was able to do this because of the "chip on their shoulder" (wonderful idiom) -- synonym for attitude but often complimentary.

am struggling to convey