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lil · 3785 days ago · link · · parent · post: Paddling into the Waves or What I Learned from Not Muting
bfx - you get my post 100%. thank you for your comment It can be more constructive to find a point that you agree with and build off of that. Finding that common ground can be a great way to reconsidering your own viewpoints or guiding people towards reconsidering theirs.
That's what I'm trying to say. We have difficulty doing this when it feels like the other person's words are a personal attack rather than a projection of the other person's beliefs. In the example I give, the person was telling me that I was being a victim, so I felt both attacked and misunderstood, since, in spite of my use of first person, the story was not about me