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user-inactivated  ·  3787 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Is It Time To Lower Your Standards?

A lot of people just assume that guys are only into hot women. In fact, I kind of don't want an attractive mate to be honest.

What do I want? I want someone who doesn't blab my entire life history on Facebook 10 seconds after I tell her something personal. I want someone who is comfortable with their own life and doesn't need my approval or her friends' approval just to speak her mind. I want someone who isn't a moron financially and makes reasonable decisions in general.

The other problem is, I generally get blinders on when I am actively looking for someone. There have been many times where 3 months after having last spoken to a person I wonder why in the world I was ever interested in them in the first place.

So will I find a mate? Probably not. Do I care? No. I'm sick of society pushing on people that you absolutely must have a mate, must be social, and must conform to existing societies' standards. If you don't, society views you as either a potential mass murderer, a rapist, or a pedophile. I have been accused of every single one of those just about 200+ times in my life, and I can confirm I am none of those. I guess I can't confirm it, you'll just think I'm those things anyway. Anyone who even has to deny they are a pedophile or a serial killer really is one of those things, right?

Bottom line is, just be comfortable being alone. It's great when you think about it!

    If she would like him to be fairly attractive and earn a comfortable income (over $87,000 annually), then she’s down to a single prospect out of 100.

Uhhhh...

$87k/year is an actual cutoff for some people? Seriously?





_refugee_  ·  3784 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I did think that $87k was pretty high, for instance my mom is a public schoolteacher and I don't think she's ever made that much money (without having an additional job) in a given year.

user-inactivated  ·  3784 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Public schoolteacher? Probably not even close:

http://www1.salary.com/Public-School-Teacher-salary.html

_refugee_  ·  3783 days ago  ·  link  ·  

She's done a few things to bring it up from the base, like obtain her masters degree and additional education, but Yeah.

b_b  ·  3784 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Didn't realize I was a one percenter ;) So glad you posted this, because I really needed a confidence booster.