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nowaypablo  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What are you working on?

I'm working on communication (in-person) both in conversation and with strangers.

In New York, there is a lot of hostility, it's implied and assumed, and even when we marvel at all the beautiful things here I think we take everyone around us for granted. If I say excuse me after bumping into somebody on the train, people will actually look at me in sincere surprise that I bothered to acknowledge shoving someone into a wall.

- Offering a smile, a hello or a nod when making eye contact with someone on the street

-Being able to not break down in self-conflicting "dude fuckin' talk to her" "nah dude she totally won't dig me" "naah talk to her you pussy" when a cute girl is sitting next to me on the subway.

-Expressing my genuine curiosity/interest in what someone I'm talking to is saying, being able to remember it if its important to them, and engaging in their side of the conversation i.e. encouraging them to do the talking, instead of me unconsciously cutting them off and talking endlessly like I've increasingly been self-aware of doing.

And, waiting/searching for a stress-free time and a safe place to drop acid for the first time.

P.S. check out #vaguequestionsbypablo. Not that i'm updating it, but I've seen more people unknowingly repost from there than I unknowingly reposted from _refugee_.





_refugee_  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

;)

Dear Hubski,

Sometimes _refugee_ gets cranky and calls people on what she perceives as their bullshit. She tries to be nice about it but you know, sometimes it doesn't always work. It doesn't mean you can't be friends! Observe, the story of ref and pablo.

Love,

ref

P.S. I'll babysit you tripping acid ;)

nowaypablo  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hey I only appreciated your heads-up:) obviously understandable.

P.S. you're too kind. Maybe next time I end up in Philly :P I also don't plan on doing it much more than once, I keep weed-smoking to one or two month intervals as it is and don't drink. I also don't know if it's a good idea to trip together with someone else, we may have to babysit each other..:S

_refugee_  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Are we getting together in Philly after our mutual concerts on the 27th?

Also, you're talking to someone with more experience than you here. :) But yeah, I was offering to be there & sober if you wanted. That was something someone wanted to do for me my first trip and said was essential, although frankly, I don't know if I agree.

nowaypablo  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I hope so! I don't know how lenient/asleep my mother will be, but hopefully very and I will be free. Also my hotel is fairly nice and should be right near your concert, we could meet there to stop by and stuff ourselves with unlimited food post-concert.

I want to trip without a babysitter, actually mainly because the worst experiences I have while high are guilt/self-consciousness feeling like I'm annoying, bugging or being otherwise un-chill towards the people around me. Apparently acid heightens self-centered behavior and I definitely don't need any more of that.

Also, I was hesitant cause I didn't know if you had experience in that :P We should dedicate a thread to this topic.

_refugee_  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Dear hubski: we know a lot of you are publicly traceable to your profiles, but we're gonna ask you about drugs anyway.

_refugee_  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm sure we could phrase it better than this nowaypablo

thenewgreen  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

For some background on the topic -a nice discussion from a while back.

nowaypablo  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Wow you even got the author of the article on-board. I'll be digging into this for sure.

_refugee_  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm sure we could phrase it better than this nowaypablo

nowaypablo  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

sigh oooookaaaay. I'm just sayin', it'll make for some juicy discussion.

edit: "Dear Hubski: You got the stuff?"

lil  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

are you and _refugee_ having your first fight?

You haven't even met yet.

nowaypablo  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

oh i didn't think so; I don't think I totally understood her.

    You haven't even met yet.

I haven't met any of you!

_refugee_  ·  3801 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I dreamed about you last night noway! Only you were much skinnier/lankier and dorkier looking. I don't think we actually interacted but you did appear.

nowaypablo  ·  3801 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Even skinner/lankier and dorkier looking than I already am? :D

That's pretty funny. Well, I don't remember having a dream since like February. Oh well. I hope you get a cameo next time I do.

user-inactivated  ·  3801 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Man, it's like you guys just want to write the plot points for me.

Chapter 5 in like 20 minutes, sorry I'm late Noway

nowaypablo  ·  3801 days ago  ·  link  ·  

the shame

lil  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

oh, right - I forgot.

as for understanding Emily aka refugee, all will be explained in due course.

JackTheBandit  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    And, waiting/searching for a stress-free time and a safe place to drop acid for the first time.

This actually drives one of my goals to have an open, interactive, and comforting home. NYC doesn't really have many spots where you can just trip and chill out, especially for first times. A lot of my trips recently have taken place Upstate closer to the woods for this reason. I've been tripping on the subway, streets, park, parties, but they interfere with the experience. Things have been better when I'm closer to nature and so the home is kinda themed around feeling sorta like that, close to nature.

nowaypablo  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I've been cautioned not to start so intense my first time, but I plan to pitch a tent at Bear Mountain by the lake (I believe its northern NJ not upstate and not that far at all, about 40 minutes tops from the GW bridge) at the top of the park. Take (one) tab at noon and see what happens, spend the night there with my friends and at least one or two babysitters that won't be tripping. I'm looking forward to it, excited for the ego death experience possibility, but wary of the "facing the skeletons in your closet" possibility which is why I'm holding off till things are a bit sunnier.

Hey, I think we just found our NYC Hubski meetup ;D

(edit: im kidding)

user-inactivated  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hope you'll post your experience to #tripreport. Heh heh.

nowaypablo  ·  3801 days ago  ·  link  ·  

haaa. I actually love that tag and have a few good trips (physical, geographical trips) that I plan to contribute :)

JackTheBandit  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

darn. lol that'd have been fun.

Well one tap isn't insane. I would recommend that avoid getting caught up in the whole "oh man ego death" and "oh shit why am I so terrible" they are both equally valuable. Although, funny enough the former is less likely to occur with a low dose but the latter has happened to me at low doses. On a positive note my 1st LSD trip I basically became an antenna for feelings and it was really interesting.

nowaypablo  ·  3802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    On a positive note my 1st LSD trip I basically became an antenna for feelings and it was really interesting.

Laughed out loud, I'm sold.