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comment by ButterflyEffect

I <made> up my mind that I'm going to spend the next month trying to get to a better place mentally/emotionally and get to the point where I don't feel like I need a girlfriend or intimate connection (physical and otherwise) with somebody to be happy. Which shouldn't be that hard, but is.





user-inactivated  ·  3804 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Here here.

I know where you're coming from. This isn't applicable to everyone because the situation is different per person, but it worked for me - have you thought about spending time with family?

My sister and I have been spending time playing videogames, watching movies, and generally hanging out together, and it's put me in a very happy place in regards to what you're talking about. It gives me that intimate connection without having to feel pressured, or needy, in a sense. Perhaps I'm not communicating this very well. But it did help me out.

humanodon  ·  3804 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Psst. 8b, it's actually "hear, hear" :)

I think this is a good suggestion and it's an option that many people tend not to explore, especially in America. If spending time with family is not easy or doable, sometimes spending time with friends who are like family can be beneficial, especially if they happen to be at a similar place in their lives.

ButterflyEffect  ·  3803 days ago  ·  link  ·  

8bit and I have actually been having a pm conversation about this stuff, but I wanted to share it since I think it's been very interesting, and to see what your (and anyone elses) opinion would be of this conversation. I'm not sure if you can see all of it or just the one comment? If you can't see all of it I'll link you to the rest.

_refugee_  ·  3803 days ago  ·  link  ·  

me me me

ButterflyEffect  ·  3803 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Adding you to it, since I'm assuming that's what the "me me me" meant.

humanodon  ·  3803 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It says it's set to private. Hey, at least we know the privacy features work!

ButterflyEffect  ·  3803 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Just included you in it. I've never tried to link a pm before so it's good to know what happens in that situation.

fallingleaves  ·  3804 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's really good to hear, I really want to get to that place myself. Good luck!