When I wrote the big boys, big girls line I was referring to those needs above basics (Food, water, shelter, access to education, etc) like dating, workplace stuff, any time when 'He got his way because he's a boy!' or 'She got her way because she's a girl!' comes up. To use a commonly used metaphor, if I get hammer drunk and sleep with someone I wouldn't otherwise sleep with, under my own volition, it's no ones fault but my own. I think this should be valid for both genders. Now I'm making a distinction between 'Drunk enough I lowered my standards' and 'I was unconscious and someone took sexual advantage of me,' because there IS a distinction, and I think that SOMETIMES in our attempts to be PC, there isn't enough differentiation.

Of course we should care for those around us. Of COURSE we should try to ensure that our neighbors are healthy, happy and on the road to self-actualization. However, we shouldn't in that (Admittedly noble) attempt squash peoples right to make a damn fool of themselves in whatever manner they please.