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briandmyers  ·  3937 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Did you ask your father in law if you could marry his daughter?

I did not ask my wife's parents for permission, but in my situation it would have been weird. When I met my wife-to-be, she was twice divorced, 2 kids, and 10 years my senior (I was 24). My folks were quite stunned, for a while, but they got over it quickly.





briandmyers  ·  3937 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Also, consider this - why is it not expected, that my wife should ask permission to marry me?

It's something I almost didn't even think of, so ingrained is the 'female-as-the-property' idea in our culture, still.