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b_b  ·  3961 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: When Doctors Make You Feel Guilty - Julie Beck - The Atlantic

Yeah, that sounds like the two of you just don't mix very well.

My experience was a lot better than that. Conversation went something like this.

Me: I'm here for an STD screen.

Doctor: You're sexually active? (I nod) And you practice safe sex?

Me: Well, I've never been raped, so I guess so.

Doctor: (Smirking, rolling eyes) You know what I mean.

Me: Yes, well, sometimes, well, not all the time, um, not really I guess. Well, it's never my idea anyway.

Doctor: As a medical professional, it's my obligation to warn you about the dangers of unprotected...blah, blah, blah...whogivesashit...blah, blah, blah.

Me: Can we just get this over with?





_refugee_  ·  3961 days ago  ·  link  ·  

She also seemed vaguely judgey on the number of sexual partners I'd had in the past year, but it was a vague sort of thing that could be filed on "I'm obligated to tell you that the less sexual partners you have the lower your risk of STDs and STIs, even if you're practising safe sex" so I kind of didn't let it phase me.

Besides it really wasn't many.

b_b  ·  3961 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I don't understand why that's even a relevant medical question. The only reason is to make you feel shame. Either you have an STD/I, or you don't. No matter how many people you sleep with, you get herpes from one singular person.