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b_b  ·  3967 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Masculinity Is More Than a Mask | TIME.com

    From the earliest age, they are told to “Be a man!” “Don’t cry!” “Stop with the emotion!” and “Man up!” This “guy code” suppresses their humanity, excites their drive for dominance and renders many of them dangerous.

You can tell this was written by a woman, because that's not guy code at all. Guy code means keeping your mouth shut when (for example) your friend is banging someone, and this information could be damaging to him if it got out. That's guy code, and it's unbreakable. Teaching your sons not to cry over spilled milk is just good parenting.





humanodon  ·  3967 days ago  ·  link  ·  

This article is a reaction to a documentary (?) that I suspect is extreme, given the descriptions. Of course we know that, but I think that popular media has indeed had (and continues to have) an adverse effect on the perceptions of what healthy masculinity is. This is of course, true of femininity as well, but I feel that masculinity and problems facing men are more easily overlooked.

b_b  ·  3967 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I agree. I'm mostly just being tongue-in-cheek. That said, if I had a son, I'm sure I would try to teach him to "be a man" in the traditional sense of the phrase. My grandmother (my biggest role model in life) wouldn't tolerate whining for a second, but she did so in a way that you still always felt loved. You can have it both ways.

humanodon  ·  3966 days ago  ·  link  ·  

No disagreement there.