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lil  ·  3979 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Self-Reflection Sunday #2: What are your flaws?

1. I love that you are building on veen's post.

2. It sucks to be misunderstood or have a positive thing be taken as a negative. It seems like the migraine comment was her version of an apology, but here's something you could have texted immediately: "Of course you can look after yourself. You're amazing that way. I was trying to convey the idea that it's nice to have people who care about you. Your friend cares about you, and so do I."

3. I'm trying to convey the idea that there are things you can say immediately so that you don't have to overthink things. It was obvious that she took your statement the wrong way. Let her know, while at the same time agreeing with her and empowering her.

4. Flaws: trying to be helpful, when probably people just want to vent. Maybe a few others.





user-inactivated  ·  3979 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Flaws: trying to be helpful, when probably people just want to vent.

How amusing. I do appreciate your help, though. I told her something along the lines of:

    That's not what I meant, I just think it's great you have friends that care about you. c: I know you can take care of yourself. Sometimes I say things and they come out wrong, I apologize. I love you.

Perhaps another flaw of mine is a lack of confidence in pointing out others' flaws...