I've just started into the 3rd paper, and it's a heartbreaking list of findings upon findings...

"Whereas only 10% of college students with married parents wondered if their father loved them, more than 30% of those with divorced parents felt this way."

"Receiving too little fathering also leads to more troubled, more unstable romantic relationships later in the daughter's life."

I'll be going over this one for a bit... so many references, I might be at the precipice of quite the rabbit hole...

Oh, by far. I reflect on these statistics and compare them to myself, my partner and my sister. I and my partner came from phenomenally similar, un-divorced households, but our parents were not those to share emotions. I wonder just how much these statistics reflect our own status versus those of divorced parents...

All this said, I'm looking at this 3rd paper as an interesting reflection of our state of divorce, wherein a vast majority of the time the mother is the de-facto custodian, leaving the father in the challenging position to make sure they are spending time with the children. But speaking of rabbit holes...

It's amazing watching her grow up, isn't it? My daughter has introduced my partner and me to bird-watching! We laugh that we've got an old people hobby together, but my daughter was so enthralled by the bird exhibit in the Field Museum (and she's always said she likes birds) that we couldn't help but encourage. It's so amazing to see her personality form and to be able to converse with her on actual mostly-adult subjects.

I'm still reading Post Captain . The first half of the book - almost exactly - was really slow and frustrating with all sorts of half-ass romance BS. When they finally got back on the water, it was great.

I guess you could also count the research papers I read tonight and their big juicy titles. That was a crazy departure from anything I ever do.

I've spent the week in California for work. It was my first flight in a few months and it looks like 2016 might be the year I give up on Delta due to their further watering down of the FF program. Not sure if I can mentally accept the free-for-all seating rush of Southwest, but I suppose that might be my primary domestic option since I'm not sure if the other Delta-esque carriers are much better than Delta.

Last night was a great night for me because I saw my Dutch friend that I met in Tokyo years ago. At the height of the night we had 2 Dutch, 1 American (me), 1 Irish, 1 Israeli, 1 SE Asian. It took me back to Tokyo and the beautiful melting pot of the ex-pat community.

The Israeli and I closed out the bar with amazing conversation, which led me tonight which saw me sitting in the office until 9 reading research papers about father / daughter relationships. It was nice to stretch my brain a bit.

It's so engrossing... it makes you want to sail! But then you think about all the randos on the boat that live a crappy life and think... that's too likely to have been me. Nevermind.

+1 for travel. The benefits of experience are huge.

Writing memoirs sounds pretty interesting. I'm really interested in learning about other people's stories... I sort of want to get into a position where I can actually sit and write some people's stories, but I can't quite figure out the angle.

Wow, that sounds like a terrible name... or an awesome service to keep spirits high.

Oh - good point. Lolita was soooo strange. Imagine being Nabokov and inhabiting that character for so long in order to write the book.