I know this might sound ridiculous, and this definitely isn't the only thing you should be doing, but whenever I have a breakup with someone, I find it really comforting to remind myself that it is okay to feel this way now and that I'll feel much better in a month, a week, or even a few days, and just need to stick it out a bit.

I started taking an acting class this semester just for something to do/trying something new/ meeting new people. I had no idea I would benefit from it this much. When I took theatre in high school, I was way too focused on being nervous about performing in front of people. At 24, that really doesn't bother me any more and I am able to focus on the acting itself. It is incredibly therapeutic. In our day-to-day lives, we spend so much time talking ourselves down from intense emotions that to have to push yourself to feel a particular emotion, especially an unpleasant one, is incredibly difficult. Once you practice enough and do it though, it is so rewarding. Sometimes I like to take hallucinogens as a way to explore my own mind, and I have found this class to be as therapeutic (but in a slightly different way.) Nothing could have prepared me for how intense it was going to be, but I am so glad I threw myself in. It has made me decide I want to pursue it consistently as a hobby, and I definitely recommend that anybody else try it out too.

How is what anybody else in this thread said more hateful than this comic?

Your last comment was interesting to me, although not for the purposes of the original thread. I can understand what you are saying in a more formal setting, but let's say, for example, if there is a school science project or even a group of friends deciding where to go for dinner, and nobody is taking initiative or making any executive decisions. Oftentimes if someone makes a decision, people automatically start taking that person's lead and asking them how they want things to go. Do you object to someone making this type of first move?

Room for one more?

Oh sure. I misinterpreted your sentence but my question still stands. How do non-Europeans have sex in comparison?

The problem I have with this article is that, even if I were to agree (which I might, I am not convinced either way) that it makes more sense to explain patterns of irrationality as overall character flaws instead of explaining each idea in terms of the individual situation that led to it... why does it matter? Obviously people believing crazy things matters, but at the end of the day the way to address it is mostly the same. You educate people and address the points they make, regardless of whether or not it was their points that originally persuaded them or simply the people and ideas they were surrounded by. Just calling it a "character flaw" doesn't really seem to help anybody. If anything, is a somewhat defeatist attitude.

Oh I understand what you are saying now. Thanks for the clarification!

As I understand, they have been varied and changing. Many people don't seem to realize this though. Regardless, you can't get an is from an ought.

What is the alternative to the European perspective? What do you mean when you say "where sex was just something your body could do in certain circumstances)?

Lots of things. The one on my mind right now is the process of cooking a good meal and then eating it, especially alone. Just appreciating all the smells and tastes, making it look perfect. There is so much to enjoy.

There isn't much one can do with this. It asserts that there are certain ways men and women "should" behave without giving any reason for why that is the case. It just appears to assume that the reader will take it all at face value.

I actually disagree about this. Yes, overall, things are probably better for men than for women, especially with regards to this particular topic. However, there are some issues for which men got the short end of the stick (being taken seriously by the police when they say they have been raped, the prevalence of prison rape, the mismatch in the likelihood of getting custody of one's children, men who have had to pay child support for children they never knew they had, etc.,) and the Men's Rights Movement seeks to address those issues, without compromising the equality gained with feminism. I understand the reputation MRA's have and plenty of them are truly dangerous chauvinists, but I think this is a case, like you see with feminists as well, where a small but loud and extreme or irrational minority screams the loudest and makes the group as a whole look bad.

Wake up, eat breakfast, have coffee and sort out any non-work related things that I need to use the computer to do like pay bills or buy dog food or whatnot, or just surf the web, then do yoga (although I want to start lifting again soon) , shower, eat lunch, work (on the computer) for about 4 hours, and then I have dinner, sometimes with friends and sometimes alone, walk my dog, go to sleep. Usually I walk my dog in the morning but it is Arizona in the summer so right now it is a nighttime activity.

This might be it. Do you know of any bands that regularly do this kind of stuff?

Oh thank you! Ironically, Django didn't have whatever I was looking for but the others got a bit closer. Thank you!

Oh wow. Whatever I was hearing was way different from whatever you got from it. None hit the mark except the Romanovs got a bit closer. Still good music though. Thanks for sharing!

That's a good idea. Unfortunately I can't think of anything. :-( That is not to say I am not a thoughtless person. In fact I might be more thoughtless than most because I can't think of anything. I am hoping to hear from people and see if there is anything I don't usually think of that I do. It is harder to understand it as something you might do if you only hear about things like this when people talk about what this other asshole did to them.

Why do you choose these ones? I'm also trying to find a system I can use to stay informed without constructing an information bubble for myself accidentally. I don't know where to begin on finding out which sources are reliable.

The terms you are using sound like they could be interpreted many different ways. What would you say is the difference between a scientific truth and any of the other truths you are describing, and how can the other ones be known/detected?

If your point is that science is not as reliable as some people give it credit for, I am totally with you. With that said, it sounds like you are suggesting that there is a way of knowing things that is more reliable than, or at least as reliable as, science. Is that what you are saying? If so, then what and how?

I actually think it is best to steer clear of compliments on her physical attractiveness until you are already in a relationship, preferably with a sexual aspect to it. Pretty women get told they are pretty all the time, and sometimes it can just get old or feel like an effort to get into their pants. Compliments about how much you enjoy their company or what you admire about their personality are much more rare and meaningful. However, once the two of you have a thing going on or have had sex at least once, go nuts with the compliments about her physical appearance, and phrase it in whatever way feels comfortable. She'll want to be reminded that you find her attractive once you have something established. Also, it can be sexual or non-sexual after that point too. Presumably if you are already having sex then making a more sexualized comment wouldn't be unwelcome either.

If you don't mind me asking, how has this impacted your social life?

I'm a camgirl. I met another one through a friend and that was how I heard about it. I just signed up on a site, waited for approval, and that was it really.