Dude, Henry clearly has lots of trouble with women.

I am, beneath all the cursing and rage and hate, a nice person. I have actually been gently turned down because, essentially, I was too nice somehow. (This is the guy I had a crush on and made cookies for, if anyone remembers enough about my love life that far back.)

But, despite Being Nice, I have never thought being nice was enough of a reason to get a boyfriend, or even a date. In fact, as a neurotic nit-picker, I have always been able to think of lots of reasons why I couldn't get a date. I have then had to calm myself down and remind myself that I am lovable, and I have been loved. At the end of the day, what makes me think that I'll be loved again is the fact that sometime before, someone loved me. If someone could love me once, someone can love me again.

Being loved or even liked has so much more to do with the person doing the liking or loving than with you.

The problem with people who say "I am nice, why can't I get with a person?" is that not only do they think that if you are nice, you will attract a person, but that they lack the self-reflection (and maybe the insecurity) to look at themselves, perceive how they are flawed, and realize there are probably lots of reasons any given person might not want to date them.

Do not assume you are date-able and then ask why no one will date you. If no one will date you, odds are, you are not date-able. When all the evidence disagrees with your hypothesis, you need to ask if your hypothesis is wrong. Not why none of your experiments turned out the way "they were supposed to." Not why some other guy's experiments are yielding the results that you wanted your experiments to yield.

In closing, any argument which relies on the idea that "if things were fair, I would have this," is not only idealistic but stupid as well as lazy. Nothing is fair. It is useless to argue that you would have a thing if only you lived in a utopia when you do not live in a utopia and never will. If grass was blue, then I would have blue grass - but seeing as grass is not blue, then I will never have blue grass, no matter how much I would like it. Saying, "I deserve this thing, and because I think I deserve this thing but do not have it, I am going to get very loud and upset about how I don't have it" and then getting very loud and upset is a waste of energy that would be much better spent in attempts to somehow become a person who has the thing that is deserved. But that is scary and that requires work as well as self-reflection. That requires the idea that one is NOT perfect as one is, and one does NOT deserve - well, anything.

The real question is, would Barry want a single one of the girls willing to date Henry? And the answer is, if he is in his right mind and as well-adjusted as the article says he is, dear god no. He should reject all of them. They are not stable. They need therapy, and lots of it.