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user-inactivated  ·  3708 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Steps to Raise Your Self-Esteem

This is all great but... How?

    1. Have realistic expectations. If you expect yourself to be perfect all the time you will be constantly disappointed in yourself. Judge yourself in terms of your own growth. 2. Have a realistic perception of yourself. Beware of inaccurate feedback from others who need to put you down in order to build themselves up. 3. Be especially aware of old perceptions of yourself. Don’t let your eight-year-old self be telling you who you are now. 4. Stop comparing yourself to others. 5. Stop putting yourself down. Build yourself up with affirmations. Whether speaking about your appearance, your career, your relationships or any other aspect of your life, avoid self-deprecating comments. Instead of saying, “I’m such an idiot,” say, “I’m so human.”

Every time someone has given this advice, I've asked, "How?" The answer is almost inevitably, "Just do it." I'm sure everyone who gives advice like this means well, but what are the "next ten words" to use the phrase from the West Wing? There's no "just do it" - there has to be a strategy. So what's the strategy?