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comment by humanodon
humanodon  ·  4148 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: On Being Nice

In my experience, different people need different motivation. Using any one tactic brings us back to that old chestnut about having only one tool in the tool box and that tool being a hammer and how one will then begin to see nothing but nails.

Being a jerk is not the same as being tough and being in control is not the same as leading. I have found that once expectations are negotiated, then they can be fulfilled and managed.