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comment by ThurberMingus
ThurberMingus  ·  1939 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Who are you, Hubski?

    lazy

I started a whole debate with my wife last night by arguing to reject the entire concept of laziness. "Defensive, much?" was the best counter for the argument as a whole. I'll definitely still argue that laziness isn't a useful term. Lazy can mean a bunch of different things, like not jumping through someone else's bullshit hoops, or your own bullshit hoops, or avoiding something, or almost anything.

People talk as if the fix for 'lazy' is always 'pedal harder' without picking a destination or looking to see if the brake is jammed.

And here ends my rant based only on a single word of your comment...





kingmudsy  ·  1937 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I left it as a single word because I didn't feel like expanding on it at the time, but the simple truth is that I'm lazy when I don't know what to do and I'm too embarrassed to ask for help. I'm physically active and I have countless irons in the fire, but if I don't know what my next step is I don't naturally search for it.

By way of example: There's a side project I'm working on, and I realized I don't have the knowledge I need to make it work. I've let that project stagnate because learning how to do better makes me feel like I wasn't qualified for the task I undertook in the first place.

I'm getting better about it. Being able to acknowledge it has helped. I won't always be like this.