I didn't say it's all women. I said that the reason men feel the way that they do is because of the input they've gotten from women. Some choose to allow this to govern their behavior and so minimize risk that way. Some choose to say 'hang probability' and do what they want anyway, at an increased base risk. I already admitted that there are indeed women who tolerate having house-husbands. There are men who tolerate women out-earning them. From what I hear and see, this is not a norm.
Also, correction: Jess made more than me. However, Jess also had a huge complex about wanting to portray essentially a "charles in charge" persona all the time. If you may remember. Jess was not about dating equals. I think they've gotten input from society at large. Male and female. From their moms and dads as well as their dating partners. From TV shows as well as cute girls flirting at the bar. It's everywhere. Women didn't create it, neither did men, it evolved over time due to whateverwhateverwhatever, white male dominance, and it's irresponsible to ignore the whole picture of that. And I'll admit: when you're using to making more than the people you date, and suddenly that switches, it is different. There is a bit of a mental shift. But it's easy enough to come around and shift instead of making a stink about it.
a) i updated b) yes of course it was my experience. i thought as i wrote that sentence that, as a confessed bisexual, i probably have more flexible views on gender roles in relationships than the average bear does. i'm aware. clearly i need someone else who feels the same way as i do about that in a relationship