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lil  ·  3103 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: June 1, 2016

    expand my preferences and try again...
or narrow your preferences and try again. or change your preferences completely and try again. Preferences are nonsense anyway.

looking for someone who has read a book. (yes, the whole thing)

looking for someone with a REALLY BIG vocabulary

futureperson in an archaic heterosystem looking for same, or different





user-inactivated  ·  3103 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Preferences are nonsense anyway.

That was a point of conversation last night with my brother. Be too descriptive and it allows for knit-picking, be too brief and you're just another profile with little to say for oneself. Finding a balance with indulgence and brevity is an odd concept to me. Maybe I'm looking at it a wrong way around.

Note: Love your sense of humor in those 'preferences.'

lil  ·  3103 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I don't know whether you have seen my #stateofthelil posts which are mostly about internet dating, but Dating Part 4 ignores preferences altogether and talks about describing your ideas on your profile.

Also thx for the compliment.

user-inactivated  ·  3102 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Truth be told, I started from the beginning once I saw your "Dating Part 5," seeing its relevancy to my current position. I've you in mind as I was (read am) cyclically typing and deleting preferences.

    Dating Part 4 ignores preferences altogether and talks about describing your ideas on your profile.

Sound logic to me. Looking for someone with aligned ideology is at the core of reading the preferences, one would think... I'll pop this method into the slower dating apps in the coming week. The 'fast' ones like Tinder etc. just aren't my cup of tea.

Shit, just the phrase "my cup of tea" feels like a disqualification.