So yeah last week was probably one of the worst weeks I've had in a few years, but at least it's over now. That said, I'm not a fan of people who change a ton when they get into relationships. CIP: roommate (who is 22 years old). Ever since he started dating this chick he has lost any semblance of the person he used to be. Wants to be referred to with a new name, use different pronouns because he's now gender-fluid. I'm now hearing "terms" like aquarius cusp, XNFP, 4 w 5 wings. His kiss-pal or whatever the fuck they call each other at this point has self-diagnosed herself with ptsd, bipolar disorder, an eating disorder, adhd, and avpd, like these are symptoms that you can just buy at a fucking shopping market. People who self-diagnose infuriate me, especially because I know actual people with these actual disorders and it fucking sucks, it's not fun and you don't put it in your fucking tumblr profile like it's some sort of positive identifier. But yeah. Now scopophobia "triggers" him. I showed him that video of that robot that wants to put humans in people zoos and he just looked up at me and was like "why do they have to gender the robot?" Like are you fucking kidding me man, this robot wants to take over the world and you're worried about its pronoun usage? Tried to talk to him about it but he lashed out and said I was being insensitive and didn't support him. Really that's only because I don't coddle him like his girlfriend does, but I also just left it alone since I've got my own problems, haha. But yeah, he basically wants to become that whole "hipster-white-dude-poet that smokes and has a manic pixie dream girlfriend and is super poor and hates the system and just isn't understood" stereotype. Which, okay, whatever gets you hard, but you also have to pay rent and if that becomes an issue his ass is grass, I ain't got time for this shit, lol.
I'm getting old :) Mind translating for people out of the loop? I took some guesses Aquarius cusp, XNFP, 4 w 5 wings - new superheroes? Avpd - alien vs predator disorder Scopophobia - fear of people who use foreign words, like biscuit instead of scone and pop instead of soda
Well, thanks for making stifle laughter in class. Okay I'll give this a shot. I can't tell you what Aquarius Cusp means. XNFP: a Jung Personality Test identifier. It means nothing. 4 w 5 wings: An enneagram type. I don't know what it means, but whatever it means, it means nothing. AVPD: Avoidant personality disorder. Scopophobia: Fear of being stared at. Yup.Avpd - alien vs predator disorder
I know you ain't hatin', but... Gender fluid or Gender neutral's a bunch of things, but it's pretty much never "it" (unless someone specifically requests). "It" is reserved for inanimates."They/them" is pretty standard neuter across English and the Romance Languages (Italian, French, Spanish). Just because you think it's a phase for this person doesn't mean it's not daily life for a bunch of people.
aquarius cusp refers to horoscopes. if someone was born around the 20th of the month, that's likely to put them on the cusp of another sign. aka more horseshit
The root word is "anterior", which means either toward the front (in anatomy) or preceding in time. I may have been mistaken when I applied to term to planetary motion. It is a very common term in biology, and is used as an opposite to retrograde (say in transport of proteins up and down nerves). Apparently, this term isn't used in planetary observation. The most common term according to wikipedia is "direct motion". Apologies.
i feel like mercury has been in retrograde for like half a year now but i don't pay attention to the planets so...
I wouldn't let it get you riled up, I think that sort of thinking has just become a bit of a phase among college-aged people these days. Most people I know who have swung that way have tended to relax back within a year or two. Staying uber-judgemental and politically correct is just a difficult thing to keep up once the regular stresses of life compete for mental energy.
Yeah you're probably right. I'm just used to phases being in high-school, lol. But college has been a long, drawn-out realization that just because we've grown up doesn't mean everyone has gotten smarter/more analytic/more reflective/etc. But yeah that's basically how I feel. It's always eggshells around him about shit I don't find very important. Ah man, maybe I am insensitive. But it's like, (in the words of Bernie Mac) I'm fuckin out here with all these white people just tryin to get an equal piece of the pie, I'm not focused on this shit. Plus it comes down to "I am offended about X, but let Y slide." Like how his gf has a sticker on her truck that's like "I LOVE DYING AND BEING DEAD," which, if we're going to play the game, would be something I'd say triggered me, considering the events of last week. But when I brought that up with him all of a sudden "it isn't a representation of her as a person!" /endpettyrant.exe
You're gonna hate what I'm about to tell you. High school never goes away. Ever. Work in an Office? or Academia? High school or worse than. In Government? high school. In an insular industry? High school. You will be 70 years old, hanging out in an old folks home, thinking to yourself "I can't believe Dan and Rami were talking shit about Florence over bridge. it's just so fucking high school." Sorry.I'm just used to phases being in high-school, lol.
If she put that sticker on her truck, I'd say she is trying to represent something, although my first reaction was -- wow, she has a condition of alien vs predator disorder -- AND a truck. cool.But college has been a long, drawn-out realization that just because we've grown up doesn't mean everyone has gotten smarter/more analytic/more reflective/etc.
Even post-college life involves the realization that just because we have grown up and continue to grow up, it doesn't mean anyone else has.
Oh college has its own completely new set of phases: druggie, promiscuity, sophomoric, hippie, political, pre-yuppie, etc. I feel you though. If you liked him before, there's a good chance he'll eventually re-adjust and hopefully you'll like him again in the future. In the mean time, pubski bears its ears.
Lol it does suck because we were pretty good friends in high-school and he's not all that bad otherwise, but this is less of an infraction on the bro code and closer to just straight up pissing all over it and then setting it on fire. He's friends with my sister too, who is also pissed at and getting cold-shouldered by him. Like I'm not saying "YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN ME AND YOUR GIRLFRIEND" I'm just saying when you shut everyone out that you used to be friends with because of your girlfriend maybe it's time to take a step back and think about what's good, bruh.