I get that you're trying to be helpful but you come off a little condescending. I wasn't defensive because I'm insecure in my relationship and not open to what others have to say about it, I was defensive because hogwild assumed that my SO not following me to my new city was because he doesn't care about me -- which of course I don't fault hogwild for because that's what it looks like to someone who doesn't know the full situation.
In which case I apologize. I must have skipped this part and confused the whole issue to myself. Whatever the situation is and no matter how it turns, I hope it works out for you.I wasn't defensive because I'm insecure in my relationship and not open to what others have to say about it, I was defensive because hogwild assumed that my SO not following me to my new city was because he doesn't care about me
A lot of people assume you owe them an explanation all the time. That if you aren't willing to share it with people you haven't prosessed it enough. But you don't OWE people an explanation. You can be defensive of something that is reational because it's personal to.