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lil  ·  3787 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Paddling into the Waves or What I Learned from Not Muting

Hi em, thanks for your comment. I [EDITED] more or less, somewhat, perhaps tend to agree with you.

    Now, if the commenter wanted to become lil's personal nemesis, following you from post to post with obviously malicious intent
I'm lucky that I haven't had a cyber-stalker so far.

In the example above, my response was not so much to the poster himself, since as you say,

    a thoughtful discussion is unlikely.
My response was directed more to the community who might happen upon his comments. I deliberately wanted to model a kind of responsiveness that shows thoughtfulness of opinions opposite to my own.




user-inactivated  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Haha... Well, yes, the edit feature is a cool thing too...

user-inactivated  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Don't ever COMPLETELY agree with me -- that would worry me! :)

Teaching by example isn't always effective but it does have the merit of not doing any damage.

I don't know about you, but I tend to feel that if I don't defend my statements people will just believe the last thing that was said. I know, intellectually, that this isn't true -- but the impulse is pretty strong. Still, tone makes a great deal of difference. You and I would probably disagree about most things, but I'm not inclined to argue with you. That's the payoff of civility.

lil  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

so amended.

    Teaching by example isn't always effective but it does have the merit of not doing any damage.
One's personal internet impact is probably minimal, but these little posts are small gestures. My goal is to sustain the illusion of a consistent persona with magical powers as described by eightbitsamurai in his epic story of Hubski. This persona seems to live safely in a library. While the other characters battle goblins and ride dragons, she . . . well, she lives in a library. Sigh.
user-inactivated  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

YOUR STORY ISN'T OVER YET, DON'T LOSE HOPE.

lil  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

wow - you mean I actually get out of the library!!! You're the best.

humanodon  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

At least you are a person.

user-inactivated  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

but who says you aren't?

mwahaha...

lil  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It seems unfair that you would be a herd of dinosaurs, although the plot (and perhaps your user name) demands it.

user-inactivated  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I just discovered I do not exist in 8-bit's universe. Muted. I've never even spoken with him. If I said something that irritated him, he didn't bother to tell me. Hmm. I don't mute him, of course, so he pops up on threads on my posts. So it goes...

user-inactivated  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

To be honest I don't remember doing that either, or the reason why I would do it, which probably means there wasn't one. I might have just been cruising your profile and done it on accident.

That should be fixed now. Sorry 'bout that. I enjoyed your observations on Hubski article.

user-inactivated  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thank 8-bit! I thought that maybe the god-like powers of authorship had gone to your head. Others can only mute and ignore me -- you have literary weapons at your disposal! :)

If you do feel inclined to mute me in future -- tell me before it gets to that point. I care what you think.