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OftenBen  ·  3870 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski, What Are Some Of Your Personal (Dating) Relationship Guidelines/Rules?

    That includes you.

Still working on that bit.

My therapist and I have diverged a bit from our original discussions, because we came up with some good coping skills for bigger problems. (Existential risk, total political immorality, Neo-Luddism) But he's directed me to some interesting reading that indicates that a person can't have a healthy relationship without first loving themselves, and I don't think I ever had that to begin with. When I started working out I used self-loathing as my motivation (Still do somewhat, work in progress) but that doesn't work well, or for long.