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cgod  ·  4000 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Cis feminism is a failure to the trans community

Some people do not pick up on trans people at all, ever. I work at a bar where we don't really have a trans regulars but it's also common to see a wide range of sexual identities around. Some times I can tell right off, sometimes after many meetings, and I'm sure sometimes I'm sure I had no idea at all.

Anyway, there are some people who can not tell that a man was once a woman or a woman was once a man, some kind of cognitive or societal programing thing. Just an odd thing I've noticed.





emisaur  ·  3999 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Lots of trans people look perfectly 'normal'

cgod  ·  3999 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Everybody looks 'normal' if you aren't a bigot but you can tell some people have changed their gender or the appearance of their gender either by way of dress and mannerisms or with more involved methods.

More than once on the job someone has mentioned that they once lived with a different gender and other people who have met that person and talked to that person before are just floored by the revelation. A revelation seemed pretty apparent to me.

emisaur  ·  3999 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I guarantee you there are plenty of trans individual's you'd have no idea ever transitioned. What exactly in the past has made the revelations so apparent?

edit: Plus, I bet if you evaluated a random population, you'd have plenty of false positives

cgod  ·  3998 days ago  ·  link  ·  

To be honest I bet I haven't had many false positives.

I don't know until I've heard from the horses mouth or at least from good authority. I've had my suspicions confirmed more than a few times. I'm fine with ambiguity, it doesn't really matter, people should be honored for who they are and want to be.

I'm sure that there have been many, many people who I never had a clue about.

I wrote a big stream of consciousness reply but I don't know if I'll post it.

Trying to buy my first house this week and I'm a ball of stress. My mortgage is falling apart and my guts are in knots. Went out saw some bands and had some beers to blow off some steam tonight afraid to offend a bit tipsy and generally feeling unsure and vulnerable this week.

I'll give it a read tomorrow, it's only half on topic, maybe an edit maybe let it rip or let it die.

lil  ·  3990 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Were you able to get your mortgage and buy your first house this week? I hope so -- it is very stressful.

cgod  ·  3989 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Seems like it's a done deal.