Have no idea why I read as much of this as I did, but one paragraph the woman wrote particularly jumped out at me: I get that. It makes sense. Are relationships where the two people don't fall for each other at relatively the same stage doomed to failure? Can't be, but if not, how is that avoidable? I've only been on one end of that spectrum, but I'm sure it can't be easy knowing that you feel very strongly about someone but never being sure what ground you stand on with them.I had a relationship once where the guy fell very quickly for me. While I cared for him deeply, I knew he wasn’t right for me long-term. Even though I recognized that I was being irrational, everything about him increasingly bothered me, from his mannerisms to the things he did. It wasn’t the things that he was doing that were actually bothering me, it was him. I used these excuses as a way out. Is this what Tim was doing?