by lil

I asked this question in a private hubski message. Here's what _refugee_ said:

What a question! It is hard to answer. In the short: I'd like a committed, quasi-long-term relationship with someone who makes me feel good - someone who is sweet to me, whose feelings I don't question, and who I can trust. I say this and yet I feel - aren't those like, the minimum qualifications for a good relationship? Is what I "need" so minimal? I want someone smart and funny and reasonably good-looking. I don't care what their job is really as long as they can pay their own bills, I don't need or care to be wined and dined. Sense of humor is paramount. Is there more to want? I'm not looking to get married now and I don't want to be with someone who IS looking for that. I want something relatively non-stressful. I want fun. I want a partner-in-crime.

What you are looking for changes all the time -- changes, maybe, as soon as you find it. Maybe it's easier to know what you are NOT looking for.