I sort of updated my pubski post to include part of this but I would like to hear what others have to say and I feel like I should make a post.
I think in previous generations when young people weren't given proper guidance from their parents they had a few options 1-remain lost and uncertain 2- find somebody else to help guide them through life 3- try really really hard to get this guidance from their parent even with all the letdowns.
My generations has a totally different option and that's good young Papa Internet. We didn't have to plead or fight for the guidance. We didn't have to turn to people and be vulnerable in hopes somebody would be there. If our parents weren't interested in guiding us, teaching us new things, helping us work out our problems or connecting with us we could just google everything. As great as that may sound at first it means we lack the emotional connection that should have been made. We also lack the desire for the emotional connection. Papa Internet may have never made us feel like a burden or got impatient but there was also no love, no real connection.
Take every opportunity you have to ask your child about their day, help them work through their problems, teach them new things while never losing your patience with them, let them know that you'll be there whenever they need to talk because they won't fight for it anymore. If it's not there they have options and that option isn't nearly as good as what you can provide.
ANYWHO, I'm sure some people have thoughts on this, I would love to hear them.