How can we let am_Unition's comment go unremarked?
Kids: Fall in love before you're 32. Fall stupidly in love over and over again before you're 32. How else will you learn what love is, how to do it, and what you need?
Fall out of love before you're 32. Fall in love again. Explore the margins of love. Whet your love appetite. Be safe. Be dangerous.
Find your soulmate before you're 32. Then find another one.
Love isn't convenient ever.
Looking into the empty well of solitude isn't convenient either, but it has to be done. When solitude is better than a bad love relationship, you're ready for a good love relationship.
The two-body problem, the kids, the crappy mat leave in the US, aging parents, needy family: none of it is convenient.
Convenience is nice. It might even be nicer than love. Or is it?
Prayer for Revolutionary Love by Denise Levertov from The Freeing of the Dust (1975)
That a woman not ask a man to leave meaningful work to follow her.
That a man not ask a woman to leave meaningful work to follow him. That no one try to put Eros in bondage.
But that no one put a cudgel in the hands of Eros. That our loyalty to one another and our loyalty to our work
not be set in false conflict. That our love for each other give us love for each other’s work.
That our love for each other’s work give us love for one another. That our love for each other’s work give us love for one another.
That our love for each other give us love
for each other’s work. That our love for each other, if need be,
give way to absence. And the unknown. That we endure absence, if need be,
without losing our love for each other.
Without closing our doors to the unknown.