Married people of Hubski, did you ask the father or mother in law for permission? If so, how did it go? Were you scared? If you are unwed, do you someday plan to ask? Did your spouse ask your family for permission? Do you think this tradition is out-dated or does it have a place in this day and age?
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As for me, I did ask my extremely religious father in law for permission. I was terrified. He sat me down for a good hour asking me all about my intentions for providing for her. What my goals were career wise and what role God would play in my marriage and if I wanted a family. Eventually my mother in law came in and said, "David, leave the poor boy alone and give him your blessing" at which point he ceased being serious and laughed, extended his hand and said, "welcome to the family." We hugged and we were both tearing up.
It was a right of passage that I felt I had to go through and it wasn't until becoming a father myself that I realized how important it is to allow the parents of your spouse to feel they have a say in this decision. Everyone involved knows that really this is going to go down no matter what, but it gives the parents a seat at the table.
I'm glad that I did it. I hope that someday whoever is lucky enough to win my daughters heart takes the same step.
