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lil  ·  4348 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Lil's Book of Questions: Did You Hear What I Said?

    It's obvious to me that she had "X" in mind the entire time, why don't you start out there?
1. maybe not though -- maybe hearing your four suggestions helped her realize/remember X.

2. maybe also she wanted to see more what "I'm up for anything" meant. When you open-heartedly suggested four different restaurants she could see that you were truly up for anything and gave her the confidence to suggest X.

3. eating out carries all kinds of cultural baggage: guilt (I should be cooking); energy level (he might be too tired); financial issues (I'm being extravagant) etc etc etc -- the conversation described above allows for some of the unconsious tension and fear of rejection to dissipate.