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Hey, it's the journey not the destination. There's a scene in the movie Swingers where Jon Favreau's character says in regards to his break up that after he got over it, he "missed the pain". As if the pain of the breakup had become a companion. Perhaps having a "crush" is the same thing? The pain you get from the unrequited love becomes a companion, something that is familiar and consistent, a definition of you that proves that you exist and gives you cause to carry on. If he were to ask you on a date and you said "no", that could shatter all of that. Better to live with his familiar "crush".