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Quatrarius  ·  524 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: You’re hurting me a lot by hurting her

the two fears of being a trans girl is being found to be masculine or being found to be too feminine - if you're masculine you're a fake or a predator and if you're feminine you're trying to trick people. you see stuff on the news where girls get catcalled and then the guy gets mocked by his friends or whoever for hitting on a tranny, and then the guy proves he's not gay by beating the shit out of her

the perverse part of the whole thing is that it's straight guys who are into trans women, because they're the ones attracted to women in the first place. straight guys find me attractive until i tell them I'm trans and the disgust response kicks in. and many many men are perfectly happy with the genital misconfiguration as long as you give off femininity

we have this stupid need to pretend that the only thing attractive about another person is what's in their pants.

no way on earth are you gonna tell me it's gayer to be into hunter schafer than into buck angel because hunter has a penis and buck doesn't