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WanderingEng  ·  1249 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: June 30, 2021

I was dating someone for about two months, and it ended about two weeks ago. She pointed me at attachment styles (before we split up), and the quiz I took came back that I'm avoidant while she's anxious. I don't know if this is pseudo science, but reading more on it, it seems accurate. Basically she wanted a baseline of being together while I wanted a baseline of independence. Or a little more harshly, I felt smothered while she felt I was uncommitted.

I'm disappointed it didn't work out, but I'm not disappointed it ended because it wasn't going to work out.