We all draw our own lines.

I use the word 'retarded' a lot for intensifying 'stupid.' I know that a lot of people don't like that word and find it hurtful. I say it anyway for whatever reason. I'm pretty careful about my sensitivity to queer people. I have been known to drop the word 'faggot' in a joking way and once upset someone on Twitter with it but I apologized. There are parts of LGBTQIA+ where I just tap out on and accept ignorance on my part or write off as Tumblr bullshit for 16 year olds.

So that's a lot of me accepting limits or at least understanding them on my part as a person who presents as a cis white straight male. Then you got people who bristle at the term 'African American' because they feel threatened that they can't say 'the blacks' in polite company. So I'm not super enthused about respecting the identity politics of otherkin and two spirit but other people are upset by the idea of people asking to be referred to in a certain way in the first place as a show of respect and we both get lumped into this 80% which is retarded.