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I used to think that in order to be appreciated, I have to go out of my way to be someone else — someone other people want to see in me. I thought I had to be funny, clever, helpful, non-offensive, doing well academically, never saying "no" to anyone... I'm not saying I need not change or grow. I'm not saying I don't need to be open with people. I'm also not saying I want to leech off my relationships and provide nothing. I'm saying I'm no longer comfortable with pretending to be someone I'm not. There's a list of things I can give someone in a relationship. If they like me for what I am and I enjoy their company, we might have a good time. Otherwise, I'd rather invest work into making or improving something.