" it feels like that makes me inaccessible to large swaths of humanity."

"why would you date somebody who runs 5 days a week, goes to the gym 2 days a week, and hikes the remainder (sometimes...)"

"I mean, I think there's a certain percentage overlap you can have with partner on shared activities and if you're under that, it's not going to work out."

See, here's the thing - you go running - in large groups of friends - and then go drinking - in large groups of friends. You go hiking... with large groups of friends.

I run alone. And then I shower alone. And for most of my 20s I hiked alone.

Yet we both still have friends!

You know why I never integrated with the Pacific Northwest's "let's all go running together and drink together and camp together and talk about how special we all are" crew? Because you guys love the smell of your own farts. It's fucking offputting. The rest of us? We put on our shoes and go. And maybe that's why we consider REI and Bass Pro Shops to both be sporting goods stores, and maybe why we consider Ducks Unlimited and Sierra Club to be equivalent nature preservation groups, and maybe why we don't worry about whether or not we can have friends who don't hike.

because we aren't secretly looking down on everyone else.

So let me phrase this less nicely: Yeah, if you want to be an elitist shithead about it, you're going to have a hard time relating to everybody else. But that's on you, not the rest of the world.