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kleinbl00  ·  3358 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Is There Anything Good About Men?

You're not really making an argument. You're saying "I'm uncomfortable with your counterargument."

The speech was entitled "Is there anything good about men?" Perhaps you forget, but I don't -

"Men Are Not Cost Effective"

"Are Men Necessary?"

"The Female brain"

    (Why are women more verbal than men? Why do women remember details of fights that men can’t remember at all? Why do women tend to form deeper bonds with their female friends than men do with their male counterparts? These and other questions have stumped both sexes throughout the ages. )

The implication has been, since the dawn of women's lib, that women aren't just equal to men, they are superior in many ways... and that it is only through (a) the concerted efforts of a misogynist patriarchy or (b) the natural malevolence and antagonism towards women by men that society remains a male-dominated enterprise. In other words, men are over-represented in positions of power because we're either conspiring or evil.

I am not a member of the men's rights movement. I fully support equality for women in all things. I always have. I have always gone out of my way to reverse the tide that women face in a man's world, and I have always been reminded that I'm part of the problem, not the solution, and that there are some things I just won't understand because I have a penis. Yet every son has a mother and every daughter has a father and I guarantee you, nobody set out to make things harder for their loved ones.

Yet we've evolved a social environment where even questioning the reasons behind the imbalance is taboo. We've gotten to the point where someone can mention that childbirth was made safer by integration into society and someone else feels perfectly justified getting uncomfortable that the suggestion was even made.

It PISSES ME OFF that we can't even talk about anthropological differences without somebody getting hot under the collar. It PISSES ME OFF that the default position is "men are evil, accept it and shut up" is the only position you can take without getting screamed at. It PISSES ME OFF that you feel comfortable saying "I honestly don't know the full story here..." but your argument is invalid. THE WHOLE FUCKING POINT is that modern times are DIFFERENT.

It's not a circular argument. Either (A) men are evil or (B) there's something else at play and I, for one, am sick of being the fucking bad guy.