Not personal experience, but I came across a Korean-American transracial blogger who completely turned what I thought I knew about international adoption on it's head. She's not very active online now, being a new mother. But her posts on the topic are here: http://peaceshannon.tumblr.com/tagged/adoption/ The TL;DR of it is that often adoption agencies falsify records, and (single) birth mothers in Asia often give up their children for adoption because of lack of safety nets, finances, and to 'save face'. I think a lot of people in the West have this sort of fantasy about adopting from overseas as a sort of philanthropic gesture, but very often it can amount to being glorified human trafficking. The problem is really bad in China right now: http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/mar/12/missing-kidnapped-trafficked-china-children . I've seen some projections that tens of thousands of children are trafficked every year. So if anyone here knows any transracial adoptees or people considering adoption I encourage you to spread this information.